If someone has a grievance with you, appologies, ask for forgiveness and respect their wishes
Discussion
I find it very difficult to apologise if I've done nothing wrong.
I did it about 2 years ago to keep my job. If I didn't apologise, the situation would have likely blown up & caused me to lose my job. It made me feel dirty & weak though.
I think I'd approach the situation differently today. I don't think I'd be apologising but I also don't think I'd have gotten myself into a position where I felt I had to.
The 4 agreements helps me to navigate these situations now:
- Be impeccable with your word
- Take nothing personally
- Don't make assumptions
- Always do your best
I'm talking about personal relationships not financial transactional relationships.
People get weird when money and status is involved