Even when a narcissist discards you, they often keep a line of communication open—just so they can reach out whenever they need another dose of supply.
No contact sends a clear message: you’re no longer important to them, your emotions aren’t tied to their whims, and you have no interest in continuing this relationship in the future.
I know it’s hard—but it’s the only way. They might regret it… not now, but maybe six months or a year from now, right when you finally feel like you can breathe without thinking about them.
They will call.
And suddenly, the air will be sucked out of you, your hands will shake, and you’ll have to remind yourself—it’s over. You’ll have to put your phone down, because if you hold it for one second too long, you might answer. And answering will only bring more sleepless nights and more unanswered questions.
So don’t answer.
Close your eyes and pretend it never happened. Count to ten and make yourself a coffee—not because it’s your favorite drink, but because its smell will calm you. Do not reply to their call or message.
They do this to make sure they still have control over you. Don’t give them that satisfaction. They weren’t worth it then, and they’re not worth it now.
That will be the day they realize what they had, REGRET what they lost, and understand what they will never get back.
Above all, it’s about protecting your time and energy. All you have to do is tell yourself you want to move forward—and that you no longer want to share a single moment of your life with them. But if you still wonder how to respond, apply reverse psychology: say or do the exact opposite of what the narcissist expects from you in that moment.
Narcissists are highly reactive to the opinions, desires, needs, and demands of their partners. They are sensitive to how others perceive them, yet they tend to oppose anything you suggest, often becoming argumentative and insecure. They rarely know what they truly want, but in a passive-aggressive way, they will resist what you believe is right.
They are extremely sensitive to criticism. If you try to explain how much they’ve hurt you, they may grow colder, deny their actions, and even blame you for the very things they do themselves. The longer this continues, the more tightly they cling to their distorted version of the truth. They may even see you as worse than them and resent you for making them feel bad. They don’t care about your feelings and have no interest in why you’re upset. They won’t apologize, nor will they react in a healthy way. They lack the emotional maturity and selflessness to make things right.
Trying to make them feel sorry for you or let their guard down is rarely effective—and often not worth the effort. Narcissists rarely recognize their mistakes or take responsibility for their actions. Arguing with them or trying to prove your point is usually pointless.
So, don’t waste your time seeking compassion from a narcissist. They aren’t emotionally developed enough to understand or care about your feelings.
The best choice is to walk away and refuse to play their games.
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