>fear of catching some kind of trauma from sex is keeping them from living happy lives
That's an absolutely justified fear in many regards, but honing in on this specific angle, I can speak from experience; sexual abuse from my then-teenaged cousin was experienced by myself when I was SEVEN YEARS OLD, because when asked if I "wanted" it I gave an affirmative answer.
Do you think I was capable of giving any kind of consent, being woken up and responding while groggy alongside being as young as I was? If the answer isn't an obvious "fuck no," it indicates that you should be looked into with far more scrutiny that random internet people are already given you?
What that experience, alongside early exposure to porn four years later, gave me was extreme degeneracy festering within me that contributes to intense scrutiny towards myself and anyone attempting to interact with me on social media infamous for its lacking moderation amongst a wave of minors and predators making up a significant percentage.
Children are incapable of giving any form of informed consent, as are teenagers who THINK they can as their brains don't fully develop until their mid-20s (only slightly variable between men and women). Your upset is at people seeing you for the predator-enabling scum that you are, which is why no point that has been countered by those in your excusing back and forth has been convincingly argued.