your favorite is called "The "Paradoxical Commandments"

by Kent M. Keith (1968)

tangentially came across:

"Wharton professor Richard Shell teaches three schools of negotiation ethics: Poker negotiators keep their cards close and see bluffing as part of the game. Pragmatists believe that what goes around comes around. If you cheat, others will cheat you. So they act honorably. Idealists act morally regardless of its impact on them. A good example of the idealist approach can be found in the “Paradoxical Commandments” of Kent M. Keith, made famous by Mother Teresa. For example, “People are often unreasonable and self-centered. Forgive them anyway. If you are kind, people may accuse you of ulterior motives. Be kind anyway. If you are honest, people may cheat you. Be honest anyway."

I know Heather Cox Richardson has said she is an idealist.

also, i dont even think it is like that personally

why wouldnt it be like a salad

the lettuce is my pragmatics

the cucumbers are my idealism, olives are my poker negotiators