Some very fine points, and a great discussion, I would add that as our gender matters less we in western society will continue to beat this dead horse on terminology. The Hindu caste system is one way to deal with such questions.

As a free person, I do not care what you do or take into your body as long as it creates no pain for anyone else. As @bitcoinbelle mentioned the areas where an injury is being inflicted, mainly again women, need to continue to be brought to attention as much of the injustice is centuries old.

The most important thing is rape and sexual assault are first a power dynamic, not a sex dynamic. As ones gender nor sex has anything to do with these acts.

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That is nonsense actually. Rapes are committed by men against women overwhelmingly.

Pretending otherwise makes it less safe for women and is rejecting a very clear reality.

I think it’s dangerous to argue rape as gender specific when children are being sexually abused at alarming rates both girls and boys.

If your argument is protection: gender is irrelevant because statistics aside a violent act is a violent act.

If your argument is men shouldn’t be in women’s facilities then that needs to be at every level… the rape thing just weakens your point.

My argument in this context responding to the statement that rape has nothing to do with sex and gender, when it so clearly does.

Women are far more likely to be raped by a man than the other way around. This is true in the reported statistics and overwhelming when considering all that goes unreported.

And this is rooted in real biology, that men are larger and stronger than women, and more violent and aggressive.

Let's not pretend that isn't true.

Basically just acknowledging reality and not trying to twist it into this gender neutral fantasy is what I'm trying to articulate.

Oh ok. I understand. There are biological differences between men and women.

My original point is that our society runs in such a way that men are under attack and we can’t address it because of all the straw men that have been thrown up.

Completely agree with you on that! Too worried about being offensive all nuances are thrown out the window!

And it’s sad because life’s beauty is best depicted in nuance.

In my nation rape is defined legally as a male on female, men can not be raped only sexualy assaulted.

Men are victims as well, while the violation is rarely talked about due to shame and stigmatization.

Violence is violence it matter not if it's an individual or the state

It is much easier for a man to defend himself, if he even wants to. Of course men can be victims but there is a huge imbalance due to biological differences.

Well stated!

After learning about ancestral gender dynamics and the relationship they had with the “church” I realized just how the West has been using language as a psychological holding cell.

Once the terms are ignored and roles are given value based on the importance to advancement of society or the family… then problems find solutions much faster.