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The person I mentioned who committed suicide very specifically did it because of the violence he encountered. He was pretty liberal with his speech and I grew up calling him those types of words just because he thought it was funny. He also regularly called me a lil bitch when I was 7, to be fair I was one 💅😅🤣

I try to mind my language more now, because I'm doing a lot of work on myself to be more conscience. But sometimes I get in a salty mood and say salty things. I certainly wasn't interpreting your original post as that, but it is nice of you to clarify here. Some people talk rough but aren't being rough and that's ok because free speech means sounding like an asshole sometimes.

GFY 🫂🤣

RedTailHawk 2w ago

Yeah, I used to use foul language like that too when I was a child.

At a certain point I made the choice to stop contributing to that dynamic.

I'm glad and not surprised that you made the same choice.

I get salty plenty too.

I'm just unwilling to contribute to huge amounts of pain experienced by hundreds of millions of people worldwide as a consequence of my rhetorical laziness.

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Kip Ashlynn 2w ago 💬 2

It is good to choose to not contribute to pain by being precise in your language.

It is also good to meet people where they are and let them grow in their own time rather than trying to berate them into matching your own current standards. 🫂

RedTailHawk 2w ago

I agree, however when those two things come into conflict, I'm more interested in protecting the people who are victims of the collateral damage than I am interested in protecting the egos of those who caused the collateral damage. No one can "unring" the bell which means the only way to protect them is to encourage a world where the bell gets rung less and less frequently.

https://www.thestarfishchange.org/starfish-tale

Kip Ashlynn 2w ago 💬 1

I would posit that folks who would egregiously hurt by this already wouldn't be on his page 🤔

Leviticus Mathew 2w ago 💬 1

They should not be.

RedTailHawk 2w ago

Yes, most likely, but even then it's not entirely contained.

The concept of "Social Proof" applies.

When monkeys see another monkey doing X, the other monkeys are more likely to do X too because it has been Social Proofed.