My "glamorous" job and assertive attitude was definitely something men who dated me found attractive. And it kept the jerks away.
Also, my elegant, neat apartment with wall-to-wall bookshelves full of nonfiction and classic literature in two languages. They'd walk in and be like OMG.
My husband is still impressed by me. I think he's looking forward to retiring early and living off my income. ๐ But I need a degree for that, or have to have my own business. Or both. ๐ค
