I can say that my most successful outcome (my wife) is her own person with her own money. That‘s what I explictly looked for after learning about some of the other dependent types. I bring other things to the table than alpha-leadership, so I need some of that in her.
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My "glamorous" job and assertive attitude was definitely something men who dated me found attractive. And it kept the jerks away.
Also, my elegant, neat apartment with wall-to-wall bookshelves full of nonfiction and classic literature in two languages. They'd walk in and be like OMG.
My husband is still impressed by me. I think he's looking forward to retiring early and living off my income. 😁 But I need a degree for that, or have to have my own business. Or both. 🤔
