marriage / relationships is a proof of work you have to put in - it never stops
Equally, if it doesnāt work out thereās no failure in realising that.š«
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Agreed. My childrenās father is absolutely one of the best men Iāve ever known.
Years ago someone I hadnāt seen for awhile came to my office & kept asking how he was etc ā¦ finally had to say I wasnāt sure about one of the things. He replied: but youāre married to him.
I laughed & explained we divorced years before that.
Never forgot how he stopped talking & his face went blank. Then he said: Iām sorry, I didnāt know. Never heard either of you speak bad about the other so I had no idea you divorced.
I said something along the line of: Heās the father of my children. Itās great to hear heās never spoken bad of me. I see no reason to speak bad of him.
Hopefully this comes out as educational & not preaching or arrogant. Cause trust me: my ex and I had our personal issues but we kept it out of our workplaces (almost completely aside from immediate supervision for obvious reasons) & always away from our children.
Our grown children are incredible & turned out way better than any of us could have hoped.
I loved and lost women in my past for various reasons, they were along my journey for a while, but not the whole way.
Genuinely not looking for variety or unpredictability anymore. I want this to be it, but will find my way if it isnātāØ
Thank you for sharing š
Understood completely. Respect š«”
Truly hope it all works out well for everyone. New babies are so much fun too.
Youāre welcome.
I canāt wait to meet this little girlā¦ āØ
Sheās a halving baby, and her birthday is Jan 3ā¦ Just like Bitcoin! š„¹
So much fun. š¤© babies are the best. You will love her so much. āØš¤©
Children really make life better for almost everyone. They love unconditionally & see the world through their own eyes. Always fun to see & talk with small humans.
They communicate & teach me more than I could ever hope to teach them.
Seriously canāt wait!
Unasked for advice Iāve told many of my mother friends over the years: āYES š we can have it all. But not all at once. Attempt it if you want & you will burn out.ā
Maybe some donāt. But something always takes a backseat. š«
Hope you understand where Iām coming from saying this.
This has given me new purpose, just continue becoming a better version of myself for her.
My parents stayed together, probably shouldnāt haveš£ļøšÆš
my in-laws stayed together until all 3 kids finished intermediate/high school and FIL came out gay.
parents do some crazy shit or break up for the right reasons-
no wrong answers š
and my in laws are the best parents I know š
Thank you for sharing š this personal tale.