So, what does this actually mean?

"To fully insulate his wife from all external stressors and responsibilities"

I love being my husbands partner. I'm extremely grateful that he includes me in his plans and ideas of how to provide for us.

When we first got married, I had 3 months of work to finish up, so I brought him to Sweden. Then we moved to America where I wasn't allowed to work for 2.5 years, and son after finally getting my greencard, I got pregnant. I've had it for a year now, and I've actually only worked for 3 days total.

Our son is almost 4 months old, and we both got some work for his dad, hubby painted and I cleaned, and our son could be with us.

I would take breaks to deal with our sons needs, and my hubby didn't even stop for lunch (I brought him something but he ate while working).

It was fun, but a lot for me, since I got paid for the time I worked, not took breaks, and our son is super chill, but he decided he wanted to talk for 10 minutes or something, instead of eating, so I felt the pressure of wanting to get back to work.

Generally speaking, I am way better suited for a normal job than my husband, temperamentally, and there are things I enjoy. However, I much prefer being a mom!

I'm currently helping to edit his upcoming book, because as a new mom, I found that my time is extremely fragmented, so working on one of my own books would be much harder to keep track of. For example, coming up with a scene and then having my hands occupied so I wouldn't be able to finish writing it down while it was fresh in my mmind. So, editing his book, where as long as I finish reading the paragraph, I can make a note and come back whenever sounded great! And it has been!

So, letting him be responsible for active work is something I'm extremely grateful for. And as someone's comment, is actually something that weighs on my husband as a man much more than on me. Yes, I want money to survive and thrive, but I don't have a need to provide like he does. I do however have a need to care for our son and make sure he gets opportunities to learn and grow, which I didn't know I had in my until I had him.

We've had car issues since June, needing a new transmission, and then realizing we actually need a new car cause it's really well-used and has other issues too. 😖 I wouldn't want to be insulated from that, in the sense of not knowing what's going on, because we practice secret minimization which is an extremely healthy way of making sure our marriage stays fun and intimate. However, I don't want to need to deal with the car, as well as tending to our son every 2.5h, cause that's already a lot.

We are partners, co-reigning, he takes on the ultimate responsibility for providing and protecting, because those are actually in his nature even if I can do them, and I take on caring for our son, but also, I'm the one who started collecting points at Starbucks where we go to work on our books, so we can occasionally get something "for free", and I'm the one who takes care of the Safeway digital coupons, because it's way too gimmicky for my husband, but it does save us money so he really appreciates it! We are partners!

So, "being insulated from the external stressors and responsibilities" doesn't make sense to me.

Him having the ultimate responsibility to take care of those things practically, while I tend do our son and future kids, while still getting to be involved in the idea process of how to get them done sounds way better to me.

I love when my husband tells me his idea, but asks me for my input, cause there are times when I have valuable intel from God, the Holy Spirit inspired female intuition perhaps, that has seriously aided us in some decisions we've made!

So, I wouldn't want to be insulated from it, unless you mean in the practical application aspect of insulation. Like, I'm not the one responsible for getting that stuff done even if I help come up with ideas for how to do it. If that makes any sense.

Thanks for reading my mini book of thoughts on the topic 😅🤣

Also, I totally read isolated at first, not insulated, so perhaps what you meant wasn't isolated, separated, cut off from, but rather, having a buffer inbetween, and if so, I'm way more on board 😅