What you experience is based upon your perception. Everything can change, if you can change.
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It will change, when it's time. But until then I don't gaslight myself into believing things are fine, or that because it's hard I must be on the wrong path. Changing enough things for an easier/happier life will eventually telegraph your destiny. In the meantime a little self-deprecating humour stops me taking myself too seriously
Changing your perception has nothing to do with believing a lie.