Again if roles and expectations are set why would i need to negotiate with my wife.
Expectations are rarely met with reality, as nostr:npub1daddy5rzhcqymssq43qxwg8y4dtu566jesvautzapda7mv92shnqutvmr9 mentioned, negotiations are part of a healthy relationship. Plans, expectations and all that stuff goes out of the window once you face new situations.
Very smart conversations you've got going on here, thank you gentlemen.
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You wouldn't, you would just need to reassert your role, and failing to do so would reveal you as an insecure loser, failing her shit test (which is instinctually to test whether she is with a strong, righteous man, or whether she needs to be worried about herself).