Thoughts on umbrel vs mynode vs citadel or any other alternative?

Looking to setup both a Bitcoin and LN node. Will be my first time setting up a node. I'm pretty capable but not a dev so ease of use is important but I also enjoy tinkering.

I plan on setting up two VM instances on a single machine (it's only use is for running these nodes/related apps). Will I need to run two separate VM, one for Bitcoin node and one for Lightning node/apps or can they both just live in a single container? I'm a bit confused because I've heard people say they should be separate, but I also see support for both products in mynode for example. Is it better to run two seperate VM with an instance on each, one running Bitcoin and the other Lightning?

Basically... I have a single machine to dedicate to Bitcoin/LN stuff. How should the stack/architecture look?

Also, big thanks to everyone who helped with comments on my previous note regarding hardware. I tried to zap everyone that commented, let me know if I missed you!