Are you also using non paid relays? 🤔
If you're from #Bluesky, you may not be familiar with relays. These are our servers. Relays are the "dumb" powerhouses that allow Nostr to be decentralized. Here are the paid ones that I've been using for a very long time and always seem to be working and fast.
wss://eden.nostr.land
wss://atlas.nostr.land
wss://relay.orangepill.dev
wss://nostr.milou.lol
wss://nostr.wine
wss://relay.bitblockboom.com
wss://relay.nostrplebs.com
You can buy access to them by entering the URL in your web browser. Just replace wss:// with https:// with one exception. The Nostr Plebs relay needs to be purchased via registering a Nostr address at https://nostrplebs.com
Why pay for a relay? Less spam in global/universe AND you get to give back to the relay operators. Paying for a service you use feels great.
A list of paid relays can be found here: https://relay.exchange
I recommend using both free and paid relays for the best experience. I also recommend not adding more than 12 relays to your profile. After that, your experience will start to slow down and you may experience other issues, depending on your client.