Love is, perhaps unsatisfyingly in the moment of the argument, usually the answer.
“bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you”
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Discussion
Of course, there is more to it than just a few words, but, if we don’t start from there, whatever comes next is lacking
This is at the core of my “playbook”, especially online. Everyone in cyberspace comes from a position of attack and defense, regardless of what is said. You can literally voice the possibility of both sides having validity and 9/10 you become the opposition by default.
There is no way forward from that dichotomy. That example serves as law online; what’s scary is that it has crossed the barrier and bled into meatspace.
I’m not sure of the way back. This is the biggest obstacle of our time.
We can do it! We are still so new to the internet as a species. Part of it I think is to surrender the belief that people are completely rational actors who can be reasoned with, and replace it with the belief that they can be, but aren’t always (maybe even usually).