Use a bouncer.
See https://bostr.lecturify.net for list of bounced/proxied relays.
To use it in your nostr client, Try to only use ONLY 1 relay, that is the bouncer. wss://bostr.lecturify.net
Except if you have paid relays, You will need to add manually to your client.
If you have trust issue, You could self host.
There are two flavor of bostr.
https://github.com/Yonle/bostr (NodeJS) (Suited for public/private use)
https://github.com/Yonle/bostr2 (Go Lang) (Suited for public/private use, but require the need of VPN like tailscale/zerotier/wireshark/openvpn for private use only)
