Learned helplessness is a psychological state in which individuals come to believe they have no control over events, even when change is possible.

It’s happens when you learn that your actions are futile.

After repeated failures or uncontrollable stressors most humans will stop trying to improve their situation. Believing nothing they do will make a difference.

Often we learn these things in childhood when it’s easy to control us.

Example: When elephants are young they are staked to the ground and unable to move. When they get older they can easily rip the stake out with their powerful legs, yet they don’t. They remain staked, because they have the memory of their actions being futile. This is how a tiny piece of wood and string can keep one of the most powerful and intelligent animals on earth subdued.

We humans are no different.

Think about where you’ve learned to be helpless. What actions do you believe are futile? Where do you think you have no power? What type of things seem impossible to change?

These are the areas you need to confront and begin taking action in.

Forewarning though it’s going to be painful as fuck, you’ve spent a long time building up psychological resistance and there’s a real cost to undoing it.

But if you can undo it you should. The rewards are worth it.

Godspeed.

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💯 Break out of that “…tiny piece of wood and string…”!

I often think of this image. Very similar message

Self-limiting beliefs.

People with no spiritual beliefs are much more prone to this behavior.

PS: the stake and string will have to also increase in size as a larger and larger elephant will simply just get up to stretch and pull the stake up and break the string. That’s the elephants advantage, and the same goes for a curious human.

Maybe Consider…One path to helplessness is hidden in the word and behavior of ‘ worship’. Ponder and wonder all the ways.

The state hates people like this.

The state hates independent citizens.

Fuck the state.

Realizing some of this through the use of psychedelics in college was a very interesting time."You mean, I can just DO things?!"

The trick, of course, is balancing what you can do with an understanding of what you should. I won't pretend that balance came without some work, and probably always will be a WIP. Many thanks to my ethics professors though, for being there when it was perhaps most important to offset the other lessons.

Great encouragement—thank you!

I’ve been working on this for years and have really had to put in the work. You’re right—it’s not easy, but it’s so worth it!

For me, I learned helplessness when I was deeply involved in a religious “institute.” That’s where I was taught to doubt myself, to never question authority, and even who to vote for—the list goes on.

Honestly, that’s also where I learned to judge others if they didn’t think or believe the way my church did. Looking back, we didn’t call it this back then, but it was my first real experience with “cancel culture.” I remember the days of bringing our records (gotta love the ‘80s! lol) to burn🔥—and so many other things that were strictly forbidden.

I’m grateful to have left that kind of control behind. At the same time, I’m thankful that I didn’t lose my love and belief in God. I’ve come to understand that there is a big difference between God and religious “institutions”—they are not the same. And I’m happy to say that I’m no longer the same either, now that I’ve faced and broken through those limits and restrictions.☺️

No HODL, I’m not gonna do jiujitsu!

You should

I gotta cut my hair and grow some balls.

I've seen this experiment somewhere in rats before.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/1150935/

The most powerful chains are the ones we don’t see. The mind accepts limitations long before the body does. If an elephant realized its strength, no rope could hold it. If a human realized their power, no system could control them. The hardest battle is unlearning what keeps us small.

GM hodl 😉⚡️💜🧡

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