I meant more that some of the men around me can get sort of fanatical and scrupulous about things. They lose their perspective of us being individuals, deserving of empathy.

If they can't get the majority of women to stop cutting their hair short and dying it blue, for instance, then they regain their sense of control by obsessing over whether a glittery hair pin is an occasion to sin.

Sometimes, a glittery hair pin is just a glittery hair pin.

Overreach is real.