The difference between Bitcoiners, and Monero users is that Bitcoiners can't tell people they use Bitcoin because it poses real risk, and harm to their families if their wallet address ever gets exposed.
Monero users can talk about Monero openly because no one will know how many monero you have, same for cash.
You could say oh, I have $100, I have $1 dollars but common day people won't know the real depth of your wealth.
You could have 3 Monero to spend, and 300 Monero at home, no one would know.
But you could have $1,000 of bitcoin to spend, and 1 Bitcoin at home, and everyone would know if you ever attached your retirement, and spending Bitcoin together without privacy obfuscation tools.