I won’t pretend to know all of the rules or variables involved. I do know that I’ve seen multi-million estates with less than $10k/yr in property taxes. It’s egregious, to be sure, but it’s a far, far lower percentage (<0.5% in most cases I’ve seen).
Much of this is not so much the state as it is the local counties and, in some cases, cities. This is where commissioners (who are incompetent to begin with and know nothing of the laws) are pushing for these ridiculous rates - which are cumulative and way, way outside of the legal formulas for computing taxable percentages.
It’s like this pretty much all over the US for anywhere worth living. To escape it, you need to venture outside of the US. But, then you’re just trading one set of problems for another.
I’ve done both. I have a bad taste in my mouth with both. The constant is government.
Keep the faith, brother. Answers will reveal themselves.