The idea that men would find some things attractive over other things implies there are expectations, a standard, that needs to be met. This is a horrifying prospect for those raised by the idea that they will be "loved for who they are".
Just one of the symptoms of people raising their children with magical thinking.
Yeah.
I once made the mistake of suggesting that someone grow her hair out a bit, after she mentioned that her husband missed her long hair, and she was livid.
She will wear her hair how she wants to.
And her husband will like it.
Basta.
Okaaaaaayyyyy...
And how are they doing now?
They're fine, I guess. I've actually never seen him, tho.
She's much older than me.
And growing her hair was... difficult? Or she just didn't like the prospect of maintenance?
Well, I'm sure their relationship is fine if they've been together for a while.
There's just an age around 40 or 50 where women all crop their hair. Just like they all wear only pants.
Most women orient themselves exclusively on other women (and trans/effemjnate men because they mimic women). I just didn't realize that because I'm not in any girl clique. I have girlfriends, but we're a collection of girl-outsiders, so it's an unusual dynamic.
Most women are part of some female herd.
My suggestion was intended to help her have a relationship that is more than merely "fine", but I've discovered a lot of women don't want that. If they want romance, they get a new lover. And they're ALWAYS willing to grow their hair out and wear sexier clothes, for the new guy.
