My mother’s visiting tomorrow, and I was going to give her some new potatoes.
But then I remembered that last year I gave them some new potatoes and my father had them for dinner then died a few hours later, so now I’m a bit hmm.
Discussion
My advice is to serve up whatever you want unless it was the new potatoes that killed your father. That would be bad!
I have spent the last few months tip-toeing round my very emotional sister. All the family are upset about my Dad who is now at end of life care and we have been so respectful that at the same time her husband (who we all love) has been diagnosed with cancer. My sister has a lot to cope with right now but things are even worse for my mum.
We can't all keep acting like we are in the middle of minefield all day and every day. Sometimes just being normal is the best thing.
When my father died, my sisters decided they couldn’t hold the service for him right then because there was a birthday in that month, there was a holiday in the next month, so on and that they didn’t want the kids to associate the birthday / holiday with grandpa dying.
The problem was it left the rest of us in unresolved grieving for 3 months.
Family is hard to please, but I’d serve the new potatoes unless your mother has said something about new potatoes.