Children and influence:
Control—>Respect
When your children are small influence is control.
When they’re grown influence is respect.
From what you require to how you live, ie, do your grown children respect how you live?
Here’s a caveat: you must be respectable even when influence is control. You don’t change half way along, your kids do.
The greatest parenting lesson I learned over 31 years (so far) of raising 3 sons was embracing the absolute necessity of my own constant change, and I mean core, fundamental change. I had to, a number of times, humble myself and dismantle my own well intentioned parenting ideologies and replace them with the next iteration. I don’t mean small tweaks, I mean core principles. As a parent looking back, my own change was key 🤷♂️
