I felt the same way when I turned 40. I thought the idea of a midlife crisis was a joke. Then around 48, I found myself fighting depression (at least my version of it) and everything in life was just blah and I was frustrated to why. Once I started talking about it I found out many other men had the same experience in late 40s, I think the timing of midlife has moved. Just be ready for it is my advice so you can recognize when it comes. Once I understood it was classic midlife crises thinking it was much easier to find a path through it. Don’t mean to be preachy on your note but I wished more older men had been open with me about their experiences at that age. Oh, and the awesome part of being 40…. Everyone starts leaving you alone when you tell them you don’t want to do something😁
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Your musings are always welcome and appreciated. Thanks for the advice Rob.
Does it feel like not wanting to really do anything anymore? I feel so unmotivated lately and just assume it is the end of winter. Going to read a goggins book to try to get some motivation to do something. My life is too much of a cakewalk.
For me it was probably more that everything seemed meaningless, so why put effort in. Looking back I realized that it was also the first time in my life I didn’t feel like I could remake myself into a new career or big life change if I wanted to. Kinda stuck with the life I had, and even though that life was awesome it felt like less sense of adventure. By 51-52ish I was out of it and now think this phase of life with grown kids is awesome. Less figuring out what’s next, and more enjoying each day for the blessings it has.