i hate it because if someone made PRs for my stuff i'd have a long chat about it with them if there was issues and i would try to meet them at the middle about differences of opinion

but that's usually not the mindset of people building software on some kind of a pseudo-tenure basis, which an awful lot of the more important bitcoin and nostr repos are

or, they are just so awful i couldn't even begin to help fix it because the abomination that it is just reflects too much on their mindset