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> as it stands I think me and my friends should leave the buggy and unstable platform to the pigs and use something else
I've been using XMPP off and on for at least 20 years, and I'm currently writing a series of blog posts for nostr:npub14t2drd00dn8g37nc5sfd48x8elchl2ctxq2vy95szhyjx9px5mfqgqnx8c. If you're looking for a human-friendly XMMP stack with both server and mobile apps, you could do much worse than Snikket.
But TBH I find matrix much easier to use, and I use it much more often. As do most of the people I chat with. YMMV.