emotional maturity also means controlling your emotions so when you are called ugly you dont blow up over it, blaming mere words for controlling you and taking no accountability for self control
both sides are true
I agree....
https://blossom.primal.net/d4cd88220edb2ab628b33369f7598de923887e760344327d89c7f7968dd1335d.mp4
"Not my problem how they feel” — really? 🤔 Jay Shetty and Simon Sinek explain why emotional maturity means owning your impact. You don’t have to be wrong to say “I’m sorry.” That’s what real accountability looks like."
(Not my words)
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He states that. But he focus not in blowing up, but I reckon, in the feeling of shame that builds up from rooted insecurity.
If he said that, then that's good.
I just usually find it healthier to focus on the self instead of encouraging people to hold on to blame in others. The example of calling someone "ugly" is stark, but there are more nuanced interactions where everyone is best served by assuming no ill-intent at all or by taking a higher road.
Not saying anyone shouldn't still try to operate with empathy and awareness for others' emotions, but there is currently a parasite in society feeding off of blame, hate, and justification. Also people are all too willing these days to not hold themselves accountable for their reactions from whatever triggers them - no need encouraging that mentality by isolating one bad behavior
I don't like to focus on blame... Where two people interact, we must be aware of the space and our differences. I sometimes "play" with serious matters and I had to learn to keep sometimes quiet because not everyone is build the same way, and I have unintentionally hurt people, not on purpose but because I can laugh of those matters in regards to my own experiences. But I am aware that people are becoming very dismissive yes. And lack accountability and use blame as an excuse to shift the attention from self to the other.