I agree....
https://blossom.primal.net/d4cd88220edb2ab628b33369f7598de923887e760344327d89c7f7968dd1335d.mp4
"Not my problem how they feel” — really? 🤔 Jay Shetty and Simon Sinek explain why emotional maturity means owning your impact. You don’t have to be wrong to say “I’m sorry.” That’s what real accountability looks like."
(Not my words)
#FoodForThought
Agree ✨️🥳
Up until the person whose foot you ran over starts laying claim to your wheelie bag now 🤷♂️
Is that a movie script ?! 👀
Interesting I’d like to listen to this one
emotional maturity also means controlling your emotions so when you are called ugly you dont blow up over it, blaming mere words for controlling you and taking no accountability for self control
both sides are true
He states that. But he focus not in blowing up, but I reckon, in the feeling of shame that builds up from rooted insecurity.
If he said that, then that's good.
I just usually find it healthier to focus on the self instead of encouraging people to hold on to blame in others. The example of calling someone "ugly" is stark, but there are more nuanced interactions where everyone is best served by assuming no ill-intent at all or by taking a higher road.
Not saying anyone shouldn't still try to operate with empathy and awareness for others' emotions, but there is currently a parasite in society feeding off of blame, hate, and justification. Also people are all too willing these days to not hold themselves accountable for their reactions from whatever triggers them - no need encouraging that mentality by isolating one bad behavior
I don't like to focus on blame... Where two people interact, we must be aware of the space and our differences. I sometimes "play" with serious matters and I had to learn to keep sometimes quiet because not everyone is build the same way, and I have unintentionally hurt people, not on purpose but because I can laugh of those matters in regards to my own experiences. But I am aware that people are becoming very dismissive yes. And lack accountability and use blame as an excuse to shift the attention from self to the other.
Totally disagree on this one.
I think words are powerful but ultimately you're responsible for your own opinions & feelings. If someone says you're ugly, you don't have to agree with them.
I think perpetuating the victim mentality does not serve the other person or humanity as a whole.
Take nothing personally & be impeccable with your word.
When you judge others, you judge yourself.
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I agree hence I did hurt people unintentionally and I cannot expect people to be at the same space I am at. We all have our growth pains and I have to be aware of the things I do that might not be well received by another. 🫂💜
Take as an example, children.
What I've found is that the more care I took with my words, the less I tended to trigger people. When I do trigger people now, it seems to heal rather than harm people.
Some things just really don't need to be said.
As I healed myself, the less that hurt came out through my expression.
Kids are great. They don't tend to put additional meaning onto your words. When they speak, you know it's from their simple perspective. We don't tend to take things a child says personally. Why do we think adults are that much wiser?
It depends on a soul level.
We cannot expect a child to understand what we say from an adult perspective.
Example, when we say to a child that they cannot break an iPhone (just for understanding) because its expensive, a child does not understand what expensive means. They don't have the understanding of value, from a fiat perspective. We only understand fully when we are making our own and paying bills.
Children are very open and wise but we must explain to them everything In a simple way. I watch many parents say no, and adding, "It's No because I say so." Nothing else added, no explanations, no "connection". This is very shallow and empty, leading to confusion and stress to the little ones. But if you have patience to explain why, they do, majority of times, accept and go on like nothing happen. We have major responsability here in teaching that they are seen and valued. Humans need that.
I am not saying not to be authentic but to be aware. We never know how our words can negatively affect another.
Some people suffer from deep depression and we could be the trigger for attempting to self harm. I cannot not think about it.
Of course I am here being of extremes but, it's good to be aware and responsible for the energy we put out.
Some people are very skiled in masking how they feel.
Whatever you put out, you get back.
You are not responsible for other people's feelings.
Hold feelings of unconditional love while letting go all fears & see what you express. I've been shocked by what I've done & said in this state but I also have no idea what impact I've had on individuals. Sometimes it feels joyously positive & sometimes it feels like I've deeply wounded them somehow. In these situations, I tend to trust that what was said needed to be said & I try to take away whatever meaning/learning I can from it.
You'll find people will behave as mirrors reflecting those parts of you that are still hurting. Those things that don't feel significant, tend to be when you're acting as a mirror for them.
It's much easier to do this with (perfect) strangers.
I don't disagree with you.
I know we are not responsible for what other people feel. Many times what we think is not even correct.
That's why communication is so important.
But we are responsible for what we say and how we say it.
My point is to be aware that we cannot make a blind man see.
When we inadvertently harm another unintentionally, lthough we are not responsible for how they fell, we can be are mature enough to grab their hand and take accountability for what we have done. That's all. This is empathy in action. I am not wrong, I am not responsible, but I see you and feel you. You don't agree?
Not everyone is aware of how energy works and that what you give you get back So, we have to meet them at the point they are. Sometimes it means to stay quiet, others to shake them up 🥺
I am pretty sure that at some point, we are connected enough to know where to speak and where to not speak.
We can feel it
I can vibe with that 🫂
