Is dying usually the most painful thing you’ll ever experience?
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No. Death is just that. Pain could or could not be related.
Giving birth tops that usually I'd guess.
And even if the thing that causes you to die (like a disease or an accident) causes a lot of pain, I don't think death per se would cause more pain. If anything, pain might recede as you finally die. Unfortunately we can't ask anyone who has died to know for sure.
Thanks. Had a loved one die recently and one thing I can’t get over is how much they were hurting at the end, it hurts my heart thinking about it. I guess that was only a relatively small part of the end of their life.
I'm so sorry for your loss. 💔 This isn't the same at all, but my husband's cat was dying several years ago. The very night we decided his condition had deteriorated so much that we were finally going to euthanize him, the cat disappeared and we never even found his body. I was wracked with guilt thinking about how awful his last hours/days may have been, but family reminded me that just like you said, overall that was a very tiny part of his life. We gave him so many wonderful positive experiences. It sounds weird, but I think someone's actual death isn't really a major part of their own life -- it affects the lives around them much more. Take care of yourself, and remember grief and healing aren't linear. 💜
Thanks for those words. I think that is a similar point and helped me focus on their life rather than the last few days of their life. My grandmother told me during the funeral that the funeral is for the living also because the body is gone. It helped me greet others rather than focus on my own feelings during that moment.