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Too many men are mislead, being lead to 1-on-1 therapy sessions, where they have to express their feelings like females do, for their mental health. Might work for some, but I'm willing to bet that it doesn't do shit for the majority.

Therapy is generally bad for both men and women. There's exponentially more people taking therapy now than ever before, and has mental health gotten better or worse? 'Nuf said.

The reason is obvious. There's a direct correlation between how much you think about yourself, and how miserable you are. And the whole concept of therapy is usually focused on thinking about yourself.

A better treatment for poor mental health is literally thinking about something else instead of obsessing about yourself and how you're feeling. Men tend to be more interested in ideas, and women tend to be more interested in people. So for men, better mental health often involves putting time and energy into an idea like a hobby or business venture or creative activity. For women, it involves things like caring for and being involved with family, social activities, and activities that help and support people.

Of course you can't say that now because we're all supposed to pretend biology doesn't exist men and women are identical, so any way one sex should behave is also the way the other should behave.

So instead of actually doing things that are good for mental health, we try to push everyone into therapy, which causes them to focus even more on themselves, which worsens their mental health, which requires more therapy...

It's like telling everyone the key to improving their financial situation is to go into debt. Then take out more debt to make the payments on the debt you can't pay now...

In both cases, therapy and debt can be useful tools. But if you don't already have your mental or financial situation in order, debt or therapy is only going to make things worse most of the time.

Thanks for the breakdown, the logical string makes a lot of sense to me.

At its best, do you see therapy as a potential facilitator to self-reflection for individuals?

It can certainly be that, I just don't think that's helpful for most people's mental health. There's nothing wrong with self-reflection in balance, but I think most people seeking therapy are too self-absorbed already.