it's getting harder for men to start a family because family was traditionally an institution through which men funded women ...
but today that institution is the state. men do real work ( like construction jobs ) and women do fake jobs ( pushing papers at the DMV or welfare office ) and through the miracle of taxation money is transferred from men to women without them even having to spread their legs for the man whose money they are taking.
with women being heavily subsidized by the state a man with only an average income has nothing to offer to a woman. you must make substantially more than what a woman makes at her fake paper pusher job in order for her to be interested.
so whereas in the past marriage was for everybody now it is only for the top performing men who can offer a meaningful upgrade in lifestyle to a woman.