Well, I don't think is a question of being stupid. We have an emotional body, a mental body and a soul. In this dimension we are not taught emotional intelligence and I think that the issues come from there. Many actions we take are unconscious reactions, not responses which makes us a walking bomb...
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EQ is a learned skill unlike IQ and society/home/schools have responsibility to impart it among growing years in a kid. If its not nurtured then we do behave in stupid manner and ignite our animal instincts which are not required as we no longer under any threat.
We are "teached" to behave in an "acceptable" manner, that varies inside each family, groups we integrate and social expectations. We are not teached to feel the feelings and respond, which are totally different things. So no, I don't think EQ is teached at school. Unfortunately, in many families, is either dismissing emotions or you do want I want or else...
Also I don't think is stupid a flight or fight response. Is a "trauma" response.
there is a brilliant book written by a Canadian doctor he is I think from his heritage is from Poland and he is talking about drama. I’ll google it and give you some reference. Yeah it’s interesting that you are saying he was talking on the same line about the expectations and the behaviour trauma and the feelings
* We are "teached" to behave in an "acceptable" manner, that varies inside each family, groups we integrate and social expectations.
Unfortunately, we are not teached to feel the feelings, go through them and respond, which are totally different things.
So no, I don't think EQ is being teached at school, and in the majority of family units which leads to a lack of empathy and lack of EQ, quite visible and spreading in our society as a plague. Unfortunately, in many family dynamics, what is teached is either dismissing emotions or you get punished for showing emotions (you do want I want or else...)
In this context I don't think is "stupid" a flight or fight response. Is a "trauma" response. When you are raised not "feeling" safe and live a life that feels not safe ( how many people have no confort or enough to live a life with the minimum required to feel secure?), that flight or fight response, is a consequence reaction to an "invisible" treath.