I was raised knowing that the whole thing was fake and to sell shit people don't want to give to children who don't want those things and it's just a consumerism ritual.

And I'm not catholic so why would I go to a mass of any kind.

In eastern europe the parents send their children to the grandparents village houses and farms so they can have a break from them. That makes sense. The kids hate it too, mostly, because baba and deda are salty af and make them do work.