Not possible.
The easiest option for running a relay where you can control who has access to read from it and write to it is relay.tools by nostr:nprofile1qyt8wumn8ghj7cn9wehjumn0wd68yvfwvdhk6tcprfmhxue69uhkcmmrdd3x77pwve5kzar2v9nzucm0d5hsqgrucv52prwm9t7ln7d7w7l07nyrfz0lj7tjrqnav299gtej5frupct0wt7d , and it's still a bit involved to get it set up correctly.
Even then, if you don't want your notes to naturally propagate to other relays when users interact with them, you will need to have nostr:nprofile1qyghwumn8ghj7vf5xqhxvdm69e5k7tcpz4mhxue69uhkzet8d9ejuat50phjummwv5hsqgpm7rrrljungc6q0tuh5hj7ue863q73qlheu4vywtzwhx42a7j9n5zgwjy3 's new lockbox option enabled, which I highly doubt cloud fodder has implemented as an option for his relays, yet.
The next easiest option would probably be nostr:nprofile1qy88wumn8ghj7mn0wvhxcmmv9uq3vamnwvaz7tmwdaehgu3dwfjkccte9eshqup0qqsgzfdez8ksa9xmuvqg5zly3nl9e5xqkpvj8nllj9aw06ra4pqq3qcug5u3k 's Nostr Relay Tray, but you still need to have the know-how to expose the port that is running on and set up a reverse-proxy to make it accessible through a domain that you own.
wish i could see what this reply was in reference to but since im tagged i will chime in that it sounds like you dont want messages to 'leak or be tied to your main nostr identity'.. so, use or build tools that take advantage of AUTH, multiple keys+single session, a relay you are in control of, and nip70 sprinkled on top.
relay.tools can set these types of settings, but its mostly proof of concept for anyone wanting to head down this path (thats what the "turn on anon posting button is for).
She's wanting privacy on Nostr, defined as random stalkers not being able to see her posts, comment on them, or follow her.
ah, in theory, thats pretty much what lockbox does. its very lonely in there tho 😂
Great. Now make it 3 easy steps.
the three step tutorial:
go to https://jumble.social , add wss://lockbox.fiatjaf.com to its own relay list , never use any other client or relay list.
ez! 😁
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