Phoenix, Breez, and Mutiny seem to be the top 3 for me (in no particular order). Had good experience with all.
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I was big fan but Phoenix fees kind of got a little high same with Breez. Not sure if you are having that experience now too. Mutiny seems to be way more reasonable. I got try nostr:npub1xnf02f60r9v0e5kty33a404dm79zr7z2eepyrk5gsq3m7pwvsz2sazlpr5 without connecting to my own node. When they open up that self custody lightning address to all I'll test it out more.
Totally fair. Just my own thought process was 1) running a lightning node sucks and I just don’t want to do it 2) I consider the Breez and Phoenix fees paying it forward to get some financially sustainable lightning companies going.
The hard truth is in the grand scheme of the world lightning adoption is still tiny and has a long way to go, and I worry it won’t ever hit mass adoption if we don’t have at least a few companies actually profiting off of it. An industry with no profits in a high interest rate environment will only attract passionate first adopters (here bitcoiners), not so much mainstream investors. The profitable business case for on chain is there, but for lightning the jury is still out imho.