Once you make someone aware of your boundaries or triggers and they consistently show a lack of respect for them it is time to cut ties, no matter how painful. Especially if they blame you after they do it.. there is no larger red flag on Earth. In the long run, it is worth it. Nothing is worth more than your peace.
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And, it follows: if you don't set boundaries, it is on you! 💯
I find this to be one of the most personally challenging paradoxes of human experience.
Yes, erecting and enforcing boundaries is very important.
However, the universe brings us people and situations that trigger us to show us where we need to let go and grow.
If we create a life circumstance that protects us from all suffering (and triggering) we would never evolve.
Your namesake’s (Siddharta’s) childhood story is exactly that.
Michael Singer’s Untethered Soul does a masterful job breaking this down as well.
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Yes, triggers are your teachers.. but that’s your personal journey and up to you to heal.. people that love you are not supposed to intentionally push your triggers. They should push you to grow or have encourage words. There’s a LARGE difference.
When you love someone you work with them.. you don’t attack them with their triggers.
In my opinion, it's better to cut the link and eventually forgive (if possible, of course) than to maintain a sick relationship.
If someone is always trying to activate the worst part of you, then it isn't worthy at all keeping that mad interaction