You can't control other people's emotions, that's their responsibility, but I'm guessing you're referring more to you not incentivizing women to love you until you love yourself, and that's different.

You are worth being loved, by yourself, and then by others. Good job making the decision to learn to love yourself, as you are right, you can only give as much love to others as you have for yourself.

Bless you as you go on this journey of self love!