i feel this.
i'm generally a nice person, but it *always* catches people off guard when i maintain my boundaries or calling out nonsense.
took me awhile to learn that.
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The topic of personal boundaries is definitely an interesting one to address in todays world. Everything has become standardized. There is no personally set code of conduct, and if you do have one, you're often viewed as amoral or selfish.
this is such a fantastic point. you get viewed as or called selfish for maintaining your boundaries because it's effective to make "nice" people (like me) compromise the boundary.
it's manipulation. if it didn't work, they wouldn't do it. but it throws people for a loop when you actually stick up for yourself or when they encounter those like you who just being polite lol