Exactly. Unfortunately, everyone points new users towards non-custodial wallets for a variety of reasons. Custodial solutions do carry risks, and we’ve had some pretty spectacular incidents in the past. But we need a more balanced approach than just "everything should be non-custodial... Must.. onboard... new... user! Must tell them to run a Lightning node… and a full BTC node… and buy this cloud subscription… and this box with software to run BTC + Nostr relays"... Just let new users chill a bit, let them say hi, post some cat pictures and follow a couple of people. If they want to setup a custodial wallet and get zapped for their cat pics, let them. If not, this is more than fine as well. We should 100% stop bombarding new users with all of the Lightning stuff.
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For Lightning Network, using a custodial wallet is the way 99.9% of new Bitcoiners start. A self-custodial Bitcoin mainnet wallet makes sense from the outset, but not for Lightning Network wallet. The important thing for users to know about LN custodial wallets is not to store more than they'd typically carry in a physical wallet walking down the street.
I agree there are a lot of toxic Bitcoiners who scare people away from financial sovereignty and freedom. Such people are probably annoying in-person too.