When you stop communicating with a narcissist, they absolutely hate it. They see it as rejection, and it makes them feel terrible. To them, it signals that they are not important or valued.
They put so much effort into manipulating and controlling you, trying to make you dependent on them. But when you cut off contact, they are shocked. They tried everything to keep you hooked, but it didn’t work. That makes them feel worthless.
And if you not only ignore them but also move on and live your best life, that really gets to them. Towards the end of the relationship, they convinced themselves that you were the problem. But when you thrive without them, it shatters their false narrative.
However, cutting off contact and moving on isn’t always easy. They won’t let you go easily because it threatens their illusion. They might stalk you, try to harm you, or sabotage your life. They want to be seen as the perfect person, and your success proves otherwise. They can’t stand that.
So, they might come back, trying to ruin things for you. That’s what narcissists do. You need to keep moving forward, rising higher and higher so they can’t drag you down. Keep progressing so they can’t reach you. That’s how you succeed and leave them behind.
The way to truly destroy a narcissist’s ego is simple: focus on yourself. Become the person you were before you met them—the person they were drawn to—but an even better version. When they see you thriving and you refuse to let them back in, it will crush them. Narcissists can’t handle rejection. They can’t handle being ignored. Especially by someone they believe they should still have control over.
Narcissists enjoy breaking you down. They enjoy your suffering. It gives them satisfaction. So the last thing they want to see is you rebuilding yourself. What truly destroys their ego is realizing their efforts to break you were in vain. Their plan failed. They didn’t get the outcome they wanted. Instead, you’re more successful, you look better, and you’re in a better place than when they first met you. That kills them inside.
At this point, they might try to come back—because they want that version of you again. But if they can’t have it, it will break them.
You don’t need revenge. You don’t need to expose them. Let karma handle that. Narcissists care deeply about their image, even if they pretend otherwise. And karma will catch up with them.
They probably already experienced a narcissistic injury—something you didn’t do that they expected you to do. That’s why they anticipate a reaction from you now, maybe even a fight. But don’t give them that satisfaction. Give them silence. Let them act like the emotional five-year-olds they are.
Narcissists are unhappy people who feel nothing and lack guilt or remorse. They are deeply damaged. Seeking revenge won’t make you a better person. They will try to turn people against you, manipulate others into believing you are the problem. But smart people will see through them.
Let them go their way while you invest all your energy into improving yourself. They are not worth your thoughts, your attention, or your energy. How can you hurt someone who is emotionally hollow? You can’t. It would be a waste of your time.
If you want to feed a narcissist’s ego, show them your pain. Show them how much they hurt you. But why would you do that? Why would you make them happy?
Your real revenge is ignoring them, blocking them everywhere, erasing them from your mind, improving your life, and surrounding yourself with people who truly appreciate your worth.
Enjoy the peace, joy, and freedom that come after cutting ties with a narcissist. And if moving forward seems overwhelming right now, start with small positive steps every day. You’ll be amazed at how those small changes add up over time.
The more you focus on rebuilding yourself, the less time and energy you’ll have to look back or seek revenge.
One day, you’ll look back and wonder why you ever wasted a single minute on them.
Their journey is theirs to deal with. Let them handle it alone.
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