We're currrently on Alby for desktop, which has a lightning wallet through MoonPay. Upon the setup process, Moonpay asked for a selfie, and SSN...no thanks...

If there is someone that can actually recommend a non KYC type wallet, so we can use it in nostr, that would help.

It seems odd that nostr claims to be free, open, censorship resistant, etc., yet alby integrates a wallet that requires KYC information. So we currently do not have a lightning wallet yet, but are working on it.