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Honest moment: I am not a fearful person. A few months ago I was chased down and pursued by a man while cycling home from work at night. He chased me in a car and tried to strike me with his car, then he chased me on foot after I crashed my bike to avoid him.

I ran to a family in an SUV and I think they saved my life. I starfished my body on the hood of their car so they would stop because other vehicles passed me. The man finally got back in his car and left.

ANYWAY… by the grace of God I was left unscathed.

But I have a lingering fear of going out alone at night and it is interfering with my ability to socialize. I feel a little nervous even walking after dinner like usually have done.

I want to overcome this feeling. I am not a fearful person.

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SuperJohn 2mo ago

It's so sad when the place you live becomes unsafe!

BitcoinIsFuture 2mo ago

I am glad that you are okay and nothing bad happened. Did you call the police? They must do their job and prevent as much as possible crimes.

You don't need to be fearful person to want to live in normal society. And I hope majority of society is still normal and if other men see something wrong they will act. I act in such situations. Maybe best first go places where there are lots of people or go out with friends who escort you to your home till you get better. But I think police should be notified about such occassions even to report what car he was driving what color, everything that can help them identify this psycho.

Drea 2mo ago

The family who helped me called the police but the police did not come since there was no crime. That was one reason I felt more vulnerable. I am going to force myself until this feeling fades.

BitcoinIsFuture 2mo ago

Stay strong and also stay safe.

You will overcome this but best first to go out with friends and family.

I think the reality is that majority of people are good and normal.

In bad situations one can use their phone to record video of a person (as evidence for police) or use pepper spray and/or avoid dangerous or dark places.

I am sure there are many more things that one can do for their own safety and security. And of course what you did was very good to go near other normal people.

CKMe 2mo ago

The only way out is through. Start focusing on all of your uneventful nights out where no one bothered you. Those are the many. You also need to keep going out no matter what. If you give in to the fear you give it the ability to overtake you.

Drea 2mo ago

The sun goes down too early now to be afraid of going out. You are right, it is one incident of many nights where nothing happened.

Sleventy3 2mo ago

The world is changing. I'm not sure where you're at. But consider getting protection.

Being afraid/fearful is different than exercising adequate prevention.

Self defense training could be a fun way to meet someone at the same time. But a dog or bear mace also works 🤙

Stay safe out there 🫂

Drea 2mo ago

I just got mace and I went to a pumpkin patch last night with my good friend and her little son. Baby steps! ☺️

Sleventy3 2mo ago

Adapt and thrive new fren 👊🫂

Silas Thornbrook 2mo ago

I’m sorry this happened to you and may God be with you while you heal and overcome this and move forward. 🫂🙏

Drea 2mo ago

Thank you! 🧡 I think I needed to become aware of how it was affecting me and now I can work on it.

Silas Thornbrook 2mo ago

That’s quite traumatic and I hope your journey to healing goes smoothly.