it is a big problem. consistency is a huge weakness in the nostr design and it's such a big problem that an ad hoc solution was applied in the most popular relay, and the solution is far from ideal.

what is more concerning, though, is the amount of circle jerking going on among a small set of very prominent users, who act as though they are the gatekeepers and that they defend the moat around the tech so that outsiders can't do anything towards it.

the tech is so primitive that if it doesn't get a formal mechanism for consistency, it will fork into one that does and leave them behind.