"lose interest" is not the same as "cease loving" Relationships can go through "I love you, but I don't like you" times. It happens on short timescales all the time. If you are really doing the "til death do us part", and you should, then risking government meddling in gifting each other with a public promise to remain faithful, says "I do" all the more. If there is no risk then there really isn't any promise.
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Have personally known men who took the risk, got married, had kids, and the moment the kids were born, the women lost interest and left. Some even leave behind the kids, but they do take 18 years of court-mandated alimony…
Some of those women do it numerous times. If the roles were reversed, we would call people like that “predators”
My reluctance to get married is strictly because the state incentivizes this sort of behavior and it’s no secret at this point.
All fair points. That happens on average. But what about you? What about your girl friend? Are you average? Are you content to be average? Maybe you are someone who can go into it with eyes wide open and so your "yes" will mean something. You know the risks so when trials come you aren't going to bail, you are going to have difficult conversations, you are going to make sacrifices for the, demand sacrifices of the other, and just do what it takes for love.
The people who can do that are modern heroes. They give their children and the children of families around them a rock and island of stability. The next generation needs that.
Felt that 🥹