What's mine? What's theirs?

https://www.thrivingnow.center/t/yes-my-circus-but-not-my-monkey/1487

I need a shower! Why? Because of that smell!

But what if the smell isn't mine? What if I take the shower, feel clean and fresh, and after returning to the circus ring... I smell like monkey poo AGAIN!?!

So... What's mine? What's actually theirs?!?

Smells are one thing. We learn over time and experience that when hugged by Perfumed Peggy or Cologned Colin or Pachouli Pat, we can get slimed by their overscent. Yes, shower.

Emotions are more challenging. If their monkey mind is vibrating chaos, what happens inside me? If their energy is grumpy and prickly, is a part of my body-mind "reading" them and... eeek! Matching Them?!?!

If they are carrying grief, or responsible for tending to a challenge, and I care about them, what is mine? What is theirs?

For untrained empaths, just asking this question is Life Changing. For kind and compassionate souls overwhelmed by the world's noise and pain, knowing what is YOUR circus and what are YOUR monkeys... and what are not... allows us to be Savvy Avoidant rather than hiding from energies we cannot (yet!) differentiate from.

Not saying this is easy. People with certain gifts were not encouraged differentiate to by those who benefit from our "attentiveness" (trying to please and appease in order to ease "our" pain, even if 88% of the pain is actually theirs).

Cathy and I will be exploring this tomorrow in this Real Skills Workshop. In order to heal more deeply, differentiation is essential. If you're new to this, welcome! If you've been working on it for decades and agree, as we do, that in these times it is Useful to revisit it as a group and share wisdom... we’d love to have you join us if that is your YES.