I think maybe that is the real issue. We don't see it differently- because it's a UI issue, which means it's also a relay.tools API decision.

I will go ahead and say, the way you could view relay.tools as a start9 for Nostr, I like to also imagine it as a start9 for the web. The old web. Web 2.0.

Reddit format is a template. 4chan is a template. Google+, FaceBook, Instagram, TikTok, even traditional BBS forums, WikiPedias are all templates of distributed communication and information channels.

NIP-29 makes sense in some contexts. Relays are decidedly multi-purpose so I imagine NIP-29 would also be decidedly multi-purpose.

If I host a Nostr client that controls relays, then I am running relays, and working with teams of administrators and moderators alike. It would make sense for cliques to exist within the relays to maintain a sense of respectable segregation without relying on the authoritative hammer to come down.