I’m sorry to hear that. Nostr does support delete requests, the argument is that that’s all it is, a request: once you put something out there you have no longer control of who made a copy, took a picture, memorized it, etc.
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This debate has already been had on Mastodon and the conclusion tends to be that it usually works well enough to implement it, though it’s not 100%
Haha, I love your display name. Very pertinent to this context 🙌
Yes, but since delete requests are in the very baseline of spec I wouldn't call relays who willfully ignore it "Nostr relays", by definition, any more than if they broke protocol with a different JSON blob.
I guess all we can do is name, shame and avoid them.
Maybe, but nothing would prevent anybody, including the victim here, from using those relays in a nostr client without knowing that fact