Sounds like you are saying itโs better to traumatize your kids by bullying them yourself but kids will internalize that bullying and think they deserve it since their parents are doing it. That will make it less likely that they stand up to a bully in the future since they think they deserve it and theyโll actually never have tough skin. This is a bad idea. People with ptsd are not tough and do not have tough skin. Traumatizing your kids is similar to ptsd. They become emotionally unstable and have difficult relationships as adults. These are kids just be firm and consistent with them. Teach them by example and donโt spoil them.
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My father used a similar approach with me. Teach me the skills i need to endure and overcome trauma rather than traumatize me himself. Traumatizing your children yourself or willfully letting them experience external trauma will just lead to them resenting you in the future. At least, that's my experience. My dad gave me hand-to-hand combat training in my teens and that had me well-prepped for my enlistment. I've now been training my daughters in a similar fashion, including firearms training. The point is not to traumatize them at such a young age, but to give them the confidence needed to survive. And yes, don't spoil them; they'll never develop any kind of moral integeity if you do.