No one will come to save you. Also,no one is responsible for our happiness but ourselves. It’s not only women who act like that. I know guys that put their hope of having a good and happy life in the shoulders of their girlfriends/wifes. I do agree we need good relationships,but the first healthy and happy relationship is with yourself. If you’re not well when you’re alone,you won’t be well when you find a partner. Unrealistic expectations destroy relationships on both sides:for men and women.
Discussion
Yes, I know this. Intellectually.
But I tend to exhaust all options of begging for rescue before I give up and crawl off to do it myself.
Don’t do that. You’re better than that.
Maybe I act differently because I grew up alone without siblings. My parents taught me to defend myself at school when I got bullied. So I never relied on anyone to do anything for me. I understand you because sometimes I do expect things that are unrealistic too,but in the end it’s good to be independent and sovereign in all aspects in life.
I think it's because the intellectual and emotional hurdle for some of the things I desire is so high, that I'm intimidated by it, so I'd much rather prefer someone else fight my battles.
But nobody else wants to fight that battle. It's just me. I'm the knight.
You’re a mid forties woman that has chosen to be a SAHM. Right? What did you expect? Genuinely?
Yes.
No.
This post is not about my personal life. It's about putting my faith in kings.
I have thought this over. If you must put your faith in kings
that’s understandable
I myself led as a Dominant Masculine before. And healed a lot of Dominant Masculine that layed within them. Recognition of that is good: cause toxicity was balanced.
Then I’ve led as a Dominant Feminine. Been a Goddess & and a saint.
Divine is always within us. Our sex, private belief in Gods, Goddesses, or none…
We are good.
While I abhor most six Sigma …
Knowing I can choose Kronos or Rhea allows me to choose 🫂✨💜
#ORCA2024
What a tricky thing to know...
How do we know if our expectations are high, low or accurate? (For me is an open question, I don't have an answer)
Unrealistic expectations are,among many others,to expect your partner to anticipate problems and not communicate clearly your emotions in the hope they will guess things just because they love you. Treat your partner like a parent is the biggest poison you can give to your relationship. Your wife is not your mom, your husband is not your father. Something else that is very recurrent is to be jealous of your partner’s past. We all got a past. Even a 5 year old has a past. Instead of being worried about how many guys she has slept with or how much in love he was with his ex, pay attention to now, make the relationship work out, because we are not that young anymore and we all should be glad our partners have a past,for,without that, they wouldn’t be who they are now.