I apologize if I have misunderstood your note but I am going to attempt replying.
Lightning does not have any KYC built in. You can run your own node similarly as with Bitcoin Core.
The work around to the permission-less ethic of the cyberpunks, is lightning with KYC. KYC is the anomaly. KYC is the crime.
Have you tried https://blixtwallet.github.io/ ? non-custodial and very easy to use.
You have a Pixel too? I hope you are running GrapheneOS on it if you are not already, you should! Especially since you are reviewing your personal security ethic.
If you have a Pixel 6a or above, GrapheneOS is supported.
It sandboxes your apps including google play services if you decide to install them.
And you dont miss out on the google bells and whistles like magic eraser, etc.
Best mobile phone experience Ive had hands down!